Elydia turned 10 months ago a few weeks ago and was just starting to walk.
Her mother was a joy to care for, raise, nurse, take care of and to see her grow, explore and learn.
I love teaching her the basics in life and in the meantime she teaches me the deepest truths that I need to learn.
Babies teach us simple lessons, and yet they are not easy.
When Jesus said we must be like babies, he taught us how enlightened these little beings are even when we think they are helpless.
Lessons We Can Learn From A Baby
These are the most surprising lessons I’ve learned from my baby since she was born:
Love you in the mirror
When was the last time you giggled with joy when you looked at yourself in the mirror?
When Elydia sees her own reflection, her face lights up, her eyes sparkle and her smile goes from ear to ear. Then she kisses the mirror!
I have been on a journey where I hugged my face and body, felt more awe of the miracle of being on this earth and wearing a “earth suit”.
I have adopted the mantra “treat your body as if it belongs to someone you love (because it does)” and made so much progress in my own body positivity.
Even so, Elydia inspired me to actually celebrate how I look like I’ve never done before.
I no longer check to see if my arm looks fat in the photo before I post it or if I sucked my belly before it was taken.
It’s ironic how, now that I’ve lost most of my precious photos, I wish I had these photos of myself that I’ve been mercilessly criticizing.
And on the other hand, I’m grateful that I can now take more pictures and that I am not confident … or at least less confident. God knows I’m in the works.
Celebrate every step
Elydia started taking small steps after 9 months. You should have seen the pride on her face.
She was perfectly capable of being on her two strong, plump legs. One foot forward and a flop, she falls to her knees and hands.
And she doesn’t cry. No no no. She looks at me with a sense of accomplishment and claps for herself!
Babies are not tough on themselves when they are studying. They celebrate every step and move on.
She doesn’t rush or think she should be further than she is or go further than she goes.
Instead, she keeps taking small steps – with joy, excitement, with the certain belief that she will make it.
And when it falls, it focuses on the steps it has taken, not the steps it has not taken yet.
I counted the steps she took and realized it didn’t even matter.
Why am I doing math and want to quantify this miracle?
Elydia taught me to be in the moment and focus on the pieces of my life puzzle that are there, rather than the pile of pieces that haven’t been put in or what’s missing from the picture.
Practice fearless authenticity
Worried about what people think, believe, or say about you?
This was probably the biggest block for me to actually live life on my own terms, and watching Elydia helped me see the light.
I made so many decisions just for permission, even if I didn’t even know if I wanted to or what is worse, because I knew it was exactly the opposite of what I wanted.
Babies don’t worry about what someone is thinking.
Babies live in the moment.
Babies are authentic all the time!
Elydia really doesn’t doubt for a second when she wants or has to do something – and I learn from her.
She pees when it’s time to pee – without holding it. I’m not suggesting that we pee our pants as adults, but as mothers we have a very bad relationship with our own needs, even the most primitive.
She eats without worrying if it goes up to her thighs. I am health conscious and enjoy eating healthy and avoiding harmful substances. I am happy about these decisions.
What I’m learning this time is to calm that voice that asks, not if something is healthy, but if something “makes me look fat”. Such a harmful voice!
She cries without shame. Because you know we always apologize for crying. There is Now crying in baseball you know
She laughs without reservation. I’ve censored my laugh so many times because someone thought it was too loud or not “ladylike” enough. Forget that!
She tries something new without fear. You may think there is a reason to be afraid. I agree … but fear can keep us from growing. These fearless babies grow and grow and grow.
She rests without guilt. I still don’t. My mentor
once often said to me, “Elayna, stop using your kids as an excuse,” and guess what?
It’s true that I’m up at night feeding the baby, but I could take some time to rest and sleep at another time. I still don’t. There it is again … I still haven’t made it a priority … and I will.
Elydia teaches me how. She is my reason, not my excuse.
She receives love, help, and attention with open arms. We “adult women” are compelled to help everyone, to save them and to save them never Asking what we want or what we need, or not accepting or receiving when it is offered.
She is not afraid to seek comfort and support from those she trusts. In fact, she demands it, and we are grateful that she does.
She gives herself permission to have a fit of anger without judgment. And then she gets over it. In a moment.
No bitterness, no resentment, just complete self-acceptance for what just happened.
From awe to frustration, it expresses every emotion and that inspires me.
To be like a baby
Matthew 18: 3 in the New Testament records that Jesus said:
“Truly I say to you, if you are not converted and become like little children, you should not enter the kingdom of heaven.
I can say that my mother converted me, transformed me to become more like the little girl I was born to be.
There are so many lessons we can learn from a baby!
Even though Elydia is my fourth baby, I’m just starting to learn the lessons babies are supposed to teach here.
I am grateful for all of my babies and the more I learn from them, the more life feels like heaven!
Can you share lessons we can learn from a baby? Let us know below – and may we keep reminding our babies not to forget the lessons they taught us!
© Elayna Fernández ~ The positive mother
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