You know your inner critic.
It is the inner voice that tells you that you are not good enough, that your writing sucks lemons, and that you are crazy when you think someone wants to read a word of everything you have to say.
It is the voice that stumbles when you are so close to victory that you can taste it.
It’s the excruciating feeling that your dream is stupid, but you still really want to pursue it.
I know this voice because it tormented me for most of my childhood.
Fortunately, as a young adult, I learned that it doesn’t have to be that way.
Each coin has two sides
How do you decide what to do if you fluctuate between two equally good decisions?
You flip a coin.
If it’s heads, grill steak.
If it’s tails, bake a casserole.
It’s not just about food. It’s about making a choice. If they are both good, you can stand there swaying forever. Then you are no better off than a leaf thrown by the wind.
You are not helpless. You can decide. Even if you only throw a coin.
Your voice is yours. It is in you Whether you like it or not, it’s there to stay. You can’t make it go away.
But you can teach him how to behave.
I got control of my negative voice when I exchanged my old assumptions for better ones.
My old assumptions were very similar to those that struggle with self-doubt, fear, and insecurity.
● You are not good enough.
● They don’t matter.
● Nobody cares about you and never will.
Did you notice anything about these statements?
They are framed as absolutely.
Here is what I mean. I have not given any conditions to these statements. I didn’t say, “If you’re an artist, you probably won’t fit into an accounting convention.” It is specific and quite obvious. And in these circumstances, it’s just absolute. When you say, “I am not good enough,” you imply that this is the case anywhere, anytime.
It is not.
Find a better frame. See the world on a case-by-case basis. You don’t have to fit in anywhere. They fit well in some places. You’re more of a puzzle piece than a square trying to fit into a world of round holes.
Now let’s get a grip on your inner critic. It can really be on your side – believe it or not!
In this post, we’ll look at three ways that it can be your best friend instead of your worst enemy.
Your critic is a refiner, not a destroyer
Ovens heat things up. It is what you do.
All ovens are not the same.
Some ovens are for pottery. You use your art and over time bring out a masterpiece. This is a refinery, better known as an oven.
Funeral directors also have stoves. They are used to turn your loved ones to ashes.
What kind of fire is your inner critic?
It depends on what you use it for.
You can use it to make you better or bitter.
You use it to do you better with a few simple steps.
First, write your design quickly. Give yourself a call and don’t stop thinking. Don’t look for typing errors on the go. It’s like being distracted by a squirrel when your daughter talks to you. Slide on. This is a race track, not a scenic highway. Write these words down and don’t worry about speeding up tickets. There is none on the Freewriting Highway.
Your critic can take a nap while you vomit your draft.
That is fun. It’s like jumping into a pool. You will be refreshed when you step into the water. If you stop worrying about how cold the water could be, you’ll stay on the deck forever.
When all your words are on paper, take a break. Eat lunch. Take a nap if you’re interested. You could be tired after all this effort anyway. Give your brain time to reset.
Then come back and edit.
As is well known, Jody Picault said that you cannot edit a blank page. Do not worry! You have a page that is filled to the brim.
Let us now consider the point of processing.
You are not here to tear yourself apart. You edit your words. You are looking for impact – especially the one you intended when you sat down to write. Did you trigger the reader’s emotions? To do so is someone else’s work. It will look more like this if your break is long enough. Ask yourself how I can maximize my impact. How can I use these words to accomplish my purpose?
Then give everything you have.
And please don’t forget to get excited. You refine here, not destroy.
There is a world full of differences.
Your inner bodyguard
If you are carefree and pour out your soul without inhibitions, you can say something offensive.
As you go through your design, you may miss it. That’s okay. Then you don’t worry about it.
Your inner critic can sort everything out.
When you come across something that you have written that gives you a break, ask yourself a question.
Should I say that?
If you said it publicly where someone could hit you, do it.
If you have no doubt you shouldn’t say it.
If you are not sure, you can probably leave it at that.
I cannot guarantee that nobody will be offended. And who knows? Your nervousness can give your message the punch it needs to reach your reader when he needs it most.
It’s also a great way to stand out.
Let your inner critic stop you from getting a bloody nose. Don’t let it stop you from telling the truth or making a difference.
Your critic has your best interests at heart
Your critic is part of you. It will always be there. It doesn’t try to sabotage you. It really wants the best for you.
It may not always know what to do, but let’s face it – right?
We all do the best we can.
Sometimes it is worth listening to your critic. Here’s how to find out.
● Will it make me better if I believe in it?
● Will this idea really ruin everything?
● How is this in my best interest?
If you answer these questions, use your head instead of your feelings. You react instead of reacting. And most of the time, you’ll dare and shrink less.
We are all focused on survival. Our intentions are usually good (at least as we define them). So when your critic starts raging and raging, take a break. Understand. Listen to what it really says. Does it hurt you? Is something wrong? What can we do to get the wrong thing right?
You will do this over and over again as long as you live.
The more you do, the less you have to do over time.
What you do when you speak to your critic and question their assumptions paves new mental paths. If you get into trouble, why not in a situation that serves you instead of harming you?
Lead your own heart. It focuses on your best interests.
If you do this, the best of you will come out in every word.
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