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Impostor syndrome is like a secret agent – in the most depressing way you can imagine.
No matter how hard you work, no matter how much you achieve, you still feel like a scam. You are still questioning your skills and waiting to be unmasked. More specifically, it is often referred to as the “failure to internalize success”. You attribute your success to luck or crazy efforts, but never to talent or ability.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- Do you chalk your success with luck, timing or computer errors?
- Do you think “if I can do it, everyone can”?
- Do you suffer from the smallest mistakes in your work?
- Are you put down by constructive criticism that proves your inability?
- If you are successful, do you secretly feel like you cheated on them again?
- Do you fear that it will be a matter of time before you are “found out”?
If you nod your head, you are not alone. 70% of people felt it at one time or another – some experienced it chronically. And some very big names are affected:
… The exaggerated appreciation in which my life’s work lies makes me very sick. I feel compelled to consider myself an involuntary fraud.
I’ve written eleven books, but every time I think, “Oh, they’ll find out now. I’ve got a game for everyone and they’ll find out.”
I can only dream that one day I will reach their amazing fraud rate. Gosh, see how inferior my cheating is. I’m a cheater if I’m a cheater … Seriously, there’s a lesson here: these two make it very clear No achievement will convince you, This approach will not work.
And a lot of the advice we get isn’t helpful either. Just saying you’re good enough has the scientific accuracy of a Hallmark Card. Self-affirmations will probably cure this as much as baldness. We need real answers, not platitudes.
Strangely enough, there is a whole series of scientific studies that deal with this topic. It’s called “self-efficacy”. The concept was coined by Albert Bandura. He is widely regarded as the most influential living psychologist and one of the most frequently cited of all time. If there was a Mount Rushmore for psychology, his face would be up there. Bandura’s book is
Now I hate it when people use expressions like “learn your own value” because while it sounds really nice, nobody explains how to do it actually do it,
Time to roll up your sleeves, Bubba. We’ll fix that.
Let us begin…
So what the hell is self-efficacy?
It is “perceived ability to succeed in a particular task, “It’s a belief, not an objective measure of ability. But it’s a thermonuclear belief and it has a stunning effect on your life, whether you know what it is or not.
Perceived self-efficacy refers to the belief in the ability to organize and execute the actions required to achieve certain successes. Belief in the effectiveness of people affects almost everything they do: how they think, motivate, feel and behave.
It can even be more important than skill. Without a doubt, the actual skills are crucial. If you have self-efficacy but no real driving skills, I won’t get into your Uber. However, if you don’t think you can achieve anything, you probably won’t try. And even if you try, give up when you encounter resistance.
And the impact of self-efficacy beliefs has been identified in an astonishing number of different areas: academic degrees, weight management, social behavior, health habits, professional performance, etc.
When performance determines the outcome, efficacy beliefs account for most of the variation in expected results. If differences in the effectiveness assumption are controlled, the results expected for certain services contribute little or not independently to predict behavior.
“Oh, so it’s self-respect and self-confidence.”
That is not what I said. Don’t put words in my mouth … Um, actually I’m just putting words in my mouth. AS ALWAYSThe whole point is that self-efficacy is different from self-respect and self-confidence. Otherwise, I promise that I will write a post on self-esteem and self-confidence because it is difficult to explain new words when old ones work well.
Self-efficacy is your belief in your ability to achieve a specific goal, while self-esteem is a judgment of personal value. My self-efficacy regarding my ability to eat ice cream may be high, but I don’t think that makes me a good person. And trust is more general, while self-efficacy is task-specific. You can be a very confident person and still have no self-efficacy when it comes to performing appendectomy.
How does that relate to fraud syndrome? Well, fraud syndrome is basically a belief problem. You could I just say: “I don’t have a fraud syndrome, I don’t care and My results confirm this. “Instead, you say,” I am aware that my performance is solid, but I do not know believe It’s because of talent. “
Impostor syndrome is about not believing in your abilities. Self-efficacy is a healthy belief in your ability in something. If we increase the latter, we will get rid of the former. We need to convince you that your ability – no luck or mere hard work – is the key ingredient to your success.
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So how do we increase self-efficacy? Bandura defines 4 things that do the job. They all have big, chic, academic-sounding names that put my spell checker on the red underline. We will translate them into English-the-people-actually-talk because I don’t like migraines anymore than you.
Let’s start with the generally most powerful …
1) Enactive Mastery Experience
When most people perform well, they attribute it to their skills. (Maybe you are too inclined to attribute it to personal skills, but that’s a topic for another, much more cynical post.)
However, if you are dealing with a fraud syndrome, this natural tendency to assume that you are a virtuoso is on fritz. You do a great job and the standard attribution bucket is not a skill – it’s luck, overwork, or invisible elves who did it all while napping.
Many interpret the Enactive Mastery experience as “work hard and you will see that it is your natural ability that causes the results.” If that were true, there would be no fraud syndrome. If you don’t actively change your default mappings, fraud syndrome cannot be remedied simply by succeeding, it will get worse.
… The impact of performance gains on efficacy beliefs depends on what is made of those benefits. Depending on how different personal and situation-related contributors are interpreted and weighted, the same performance success can increase self-efficacy, leave it unaffected or reduce self-efficacy (Bandura 1982a).
So what do we have to do? You need to know the system used. Your process. Yes, you have one. No, I didn’t spy on you.
You probably take it for granted. Or it is a blur if you fearfully drive yourself crazy due to deadlines or trying to meet insanely high standards. At this point, it’s probably common and therefore often unconscious, like driving a car, but there are things you do every time to get these consistently good results. (And if you don’t consistently get good results, then you don’t have fraud syndrome and I won’t get into your Uber.) Not everyone does the things you do in your process, and that’s one of the reasons why not everyone gets the results that you do.
Consider the system separate from you. Like the recipe that makes a good cake. If you have a solid recipe or good instructions, you’re in control. And what is the control? It is the opposite of happiness. When you realize that you have a system and the system consistently produces these results, the depressing magical thinking of Fraudulent Syndrome disappears. You have a new “why” that is responsible for these solid results.
How would you react if I said to you: “I took tennis lessons for 10 weeks and my tennis luck has increased dramatically!” You would laugh. Systems and training don’t increase happiness. You increase dexterity. You simply don’t notice or don’t recognize the system you’re using. (And if I were your system, I would be upset that Mr. Luck and Ms. Overwork were wrong to do it justice.)
When work blurs, it’s easy to think you’re lucky. But I suppose you noticed that people who are very sure of their abilities can often explain them to you. You are aware of your system. Step out of yourself and watch what you do to get the results. As the great Carl Jung once said: “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will guide your life and you will call it fate.”
And what if you are not convinced? Then set up an experiment. If you attribute your results to your lucky rabbit’s foot, but you can get the same results repeatedly, it’s hard to argue that dismembered mammalian limbs are responsible for your success.
If the assessment of the adequacy of one’s own performance is very subjective, as is the case with social competence, an illusory generated low sense of effectiveness persists despite repeated successes that indicate personal skills (Newman & Goldfried, 1987). In order to dispel a slight feeling of personal effectiveness, an explicit, convincing feedback is required that emphatically denies the already unbelief in one’s own abilities.
“Oh, I’m a scam. I’m only doing it well because I’ve worked hard.” Good. Time limit the effort and see if the world breaks down. But before you start, think about your system after and how you will do the things that you always do in this shorter time frame.
If you get 90% of your usual results in half the time, that’s not “hard work”. That is talent.
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Okay, Enactive Mastery Blahbity Blah is the method that generally works best. But which method is best for people who are not sure – like people with fraud syndrome?
2) acting experience
In English: “Watch other talented people at work.”
If you are reading this, take your skills for granted. If you see people who do similar things to you do well and a much larger group of people who don’t do these things fail, you’ll find that your system is working and there are other (inferior) methods that are You don’t want to use use. So you are in control. Control means bad luck.
The problem is, when people with fraud syndrome look at others, they usually look at the wrong people. They often compare themselves to people who have no talent and have great difficulty finding their way out of the house every morning. Yes, it makes you feel better, but it doesn’t convince you that you’re talented – it just means that you’re not an idiot. In other cases, fraudsters compare to a fraud syndrome with the highest 1%, which acts like a quick-acting injection of depression concentrate and is extremely debilitating.
Instead, think of goldilocks: You don’t want to compare yourself to “too cold” or “too hot”, but rather search for “just right”. Bandura says you get the best results from watching others who are your peers or a little better than you.
People with similar or slightly higher abilities provide the most meaningful comparative information to assess their own abilities (Festinger, 1954; Suls & Miller, 1977; Wood, 1989).
How does that help? Plain and simple: it’s inspiring. “If they can do it, I can do it.” You have a system. It works out. You have a system (if you take the time to notice) and it works. You will probably find that what you do is pretty similar to what you do. They both achieve good results and are equal. It is out of luck.
You can also use the experience of the deputy without the deputy part: It’s called “self-modeling”. Watch how you work successfully. Look at the good job you have done. Smart emails you’ve sent Great presentations or reports you’ve put together. Everything that resonates with you and lets you say: “Hey, that’s an impressive job – Oh and I am the one who did it.“
Self-modeling has a remarkably broad applicability and often succeeds with die-hard self-doubters, where other teaching, modeling and incentive approaches fail (Dowrick, 1991; Meharg & Wolterdorf, 1990). Apparently, it is difficult to surpass the personal accomplishments observed as a self-confident skill.
Let your “best self” be your role model.
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We not only want to watch others at work, but also get help from our friends. But the trick is to get that right Kind of support that kills and does not increase your fraud syndrome …
3) Social conviction
Translation: Support and encouragement. For people with fraud syndrome, it is not enough just to see the results to build confidence in their abilities … but to see the results and If others praise them, that’s the trick.
… Skill transfer and success feedback alone have had little effect on people who have strong doubts about their skills. However, sharing skills with social validation of personal effectiveness has brought great benefits.
Tell your friends that you are going through a difficult time and could use their support. There are three research tips that you should consider here:
1) If the positive feedback is dishonest, you will see through it thanks to the negative, skeptical lens of Fraud syndrome. It has to be real praise.
2) Expert support is preferable. Praise from someone who doesn’t understand the arena can easily be dismissed.
3) Positive feedback about your hard work is nice, but they better praise your skills. If you are repeatedly praised for your hard work, you can easily find that you have no talent.
The evaluative feedback, which emphasizes the personal abilities, increases the effectiveness beliefs. Feedback that the children have improved their skills through effort also improves their perceived effectiveness, even if not saying so much that their progress shows that they are capable of the activity.
You don’t want white lies about your lightsaber skills, you want sincere compliments. And you’d like her from Yoda. And it’s nice to hear that you’ve worked hard, but it’s better to hear “The power is strong with this.”
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We have covered systems, models and support. What’s left? Oh feelings. You can never let go of the power of feelings, whether you like it or not …
4) Emotional / physiological states
Your feelings and moods are important. And if you think they don’t matter, you’re in real trouble because they still affect you and You don’t even notice,
Not getting enough sleep, being hungry, or just having a bad day can make fraudulent feelings worse. However, if you don’t take the time to investigate these causes, you will simply feel terrible and blame yourself for a scam.
Mood activates the congruent subset of memories through an associative mood network. So a negative mood activates thoughts about past failures, while a positive mood activates thoughts about past achievements … According to Teasdale (1988) negative episodes and depressive moods activate a global view of oneself as inappropriate and worthless instead of just activating unhappy memories ,
Here’s the problem: we are absolutely terrible at finding out the real causes of our feelings. You think you know why you feel something, but it’s just an inference. You think you’re upset about what your partner said, but actually because you’ve slept five hours in the past three nights.
But here it is head: You can now use your knowledge of this emotional blurring to your advantage. Since the cause and meaning of feelings are all about interpretation, you can do so choose to interpret it differently, The Court of Emotions has an appeal process.
If you can transform feelings into something transient or unrelated, your self-efficacy will not decrease.
… If the meaning of an affective state changes by assigning it to a non-emotional or temporarily irrelevant source, the state has no influence on the judgment, since it is considered to be non-informative for the present judgment. For example, interviewers who attribute their accelerated heart rate to having rushed upstairs are less likely to be surprised at their ability to handle the interview situation than interviewers who read their pounding heart as a sign of distress.
Yes, you are restless before the big meeting. But this physical feeling has to be interpreted. You don’t have to believe it’s nervous because you’re a swindler. It could be excitement or anticipation.
Renew your feelings and you can reshape the fraud syndrome … and that can reshape your life.
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Okay, we’re all out of Bandura. We have spent a lot of time on the summary – and we will also answer the emerging question: Even if you defeat the fraud syndrome today, how do you know that this newly discovered self-efficacy continues?
How to overcome the fraud syndrome:
- Active championship experience: Recognize your system. Tennis lessons don’t increase your tennis luck.
- Indirect experience: If they can, you can.
- Social belief: For one, I happen to think The Force is very strong with you. Well there.
- Emotional / physiological states: Refresh feelings. You are not nervous because you want this blog post to end. You are just so, very excited to read it.
People are afraid that even if they develop self-efficacy, they will fall back into fraudulent feelings. Do not worry. If you really make an effort to follow the 4 principles above, the self-efficacy in your brain can become as persistent as the feeling that you are now a scam.
I don’t know anything about you, but I’m all for positive feelings that are irrationally resistant to change.
They continue to hold on to the fictitious beliefs about effectiveness, even after the convincing basis for these beliefs has been thoroughly discredited. Efficacy beliefs that are generated arbitrarily survive behavioral experiences that contradict them for some time (Cervone & Palmer, 1990). Lawrence (1988) suggests that beliefs generated by fictitious success can gain strength through a cognitive persuasion process.
The old saying goes: “Fake it until you make it.” already did it. The race is over. You won.
Now it’s time to finally enjoy it.
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